Signs That You Might Be Emotionally Detached – Is Your Cold Shoulder Really Worth It?

You may take it at self-confidence or boldness. But you’re actually going to shoo everyone away from you with that bad attitude. Keeping tabs on how you interact with others is vital.

Social ties are more than necessary in the fast-paced world we live in today. When your attitude isn’t in tune with what others expect, the chances that you’d be alone in a short while are genuine. 

Sign 1: You’re So Rigid When it comes to Sharing

Being in a social circle means you have to share your personal experiences every now and then. When you don’t feel the need to share what’s going on with you, it’s a sign that you’re a bit off emotionally.

Your friends could easily sense this detachment, and it could create a divide in the long run if you’re not careful.

Sign 2: You Don’t Feel the Need to Identify with a Group 

When you have the urge not to be seen with people, it’s a clear sign that something’s wrong with you at an emotional level. 

Membership of a social group has a lot to do with keeping your emotional concerns and strengths out in the open.

When you want to be a loner at every moment, you’re definitely an emotional hermit. Coming out of that shell isn’t easy, but it’s the best choice you have to take.

Sign 3: You’re surrounded by a Brick Wall 

It’s common for someone to have many alone times, but when the lonely times are too often, then it’s an emotional problem.

This is most common in small-group friendships or relationships. When your partner has concerns about your behavior or lifestyle and your response is rigid, it’s an apparent emotional problem. 

An emotional brick wall will get others ticked off, and you may be alone sooner than you’d expect. Learn to be open and allow others to express their opinion. You don’t need to be trapped by dogma, but letting others talk about you keeps you informed and, most importantly, social.

Sign 4: You Feel Surprised When Someone Gets Emotional 

When someone has an emotional moment, you may feel overtly flabbergasted. People have different levels at which they express their emotions. It also helps them when you show concern instead of disbelief.

Don’t feel surprised that what you won’t break a sweat over is causing someone to weep inconsolably. Expressing such a feeling in public too much will pass you off as being emotionally frigid.

Sign 5: You Throw Others’ Feelings out the Window with Ease

This happens typically in a relationship. When you have a partner expressing how they feel, and all you want to do is tell them how unconcerned you are, you’re so cold at an emotional level.

When your only intent is to tell others how you don’t care, you’re on the way to breaking up every emotional tie you have.

If you don’t care about the feelings of others, there may be a time when the reverse will be the case, so consider being more attentive to what others experience.

Sign 6: You’re Abnormally Sarcastic 

If everything someone does or says is a joke to you, then you have an emotional issue you’re trying to cover up.

Emotionally cold individuals tend to see no reason to take anyone’s feelings seriously what someone else takes as very serious, may be a comic event for you.

Sarcasm at this stage can be seen as a screen you use to protect yourself from the insecurities you feel, and expressing it in public could get your social circle to reduce very quickly. 

Sign 7: You Use the Past to Judge the Present Situation 

When someone has been deeply hurt in the past, there’s sure to be a scar. The level of the injury depends on the steps taken after the emotional trauma.

Some people tend to become really scary when in a similar situation that hurt them in the past. And such people could easily pass off as being detached emotionally. 

When you suffered heartbreak in the past, what you need to do is get your act together and move on. When you hold on to the past and how you were hurt, it’s a sure thing that you’ll have issues in the long run.

Sign 8: You Hold the Firm Belief That Nothing’s Wrong With You 

This feeling is most evident when you’re far gone as an emotionally frigid person. You always tell yourself you’re on top of the situation. Also, you don’t feel a need to know what anyone else thinks about you. 

Such feelings are a clear pointer to the insecurity you feel, and it could cost you in the long run.

Sign 9: You Have No Reason to Apologize 

The need to apologize is most potent when you have an interest in maintaining a social relationship. If you’re in the wrong and know it, but don’t think to apologize is necessary, you’re emotionally detached.

You may feel powerful for a moment, but the thrill will fade when you find out you don’t have anyone to talk to. 

Sign 10: Your Responses are Always Off or Offensive 

When someone confides in you about an emotional issue, and your response seems to be a bit grim, you’re emotionally off. 

People tend to have assurance in your emotional balance when what you reply to them with is what gives them comfort. 

Imagine a friend telling you about a cheating partner, and your response is the friend should do the same. It’s a clear sign for your friend to steer clear of you.

With your emotional attachment rather low, it’s a fact that you’ll have to work on your being dulled to what everyone else identifies with.